Last night, we had fried fish for dinner. That was the easiest way to prepare since I arrived home a little bit late. My husband bought mami (noodle soup) at the canteen near our place. Fish and noodles are Althea's favorites kaya ganado na naman syang kumain. I gave her noodles and fish, di ko na sya binigyan ng rice. When we are about to finish eating, my sister-in-law who just arrived from work asked if we have veggies. Sabi ng husband ko, wala Ate, sa'yo na 'tong mami...Nakupo.... yun na ang start ng tantrums ni Thea. Gusto pa raw nya kumain ng noodles.
No matter how I explained that she can't have it anymore, she continued crying. Isinuot nya ang tsinelas nya, at nagpumilit na lumabas... Di ko na napigilang di magtaas ng boses... "Saan ka pupunta? Maglalayas ka na ba? O sige akyat ka sa taas at kunin mo na rin ang damit mo." Na-shocked ako dahil bigla s'yang umakyat (ang bilis nyang naka-akyat sa hagdan). Diretso sa cabinet nya at pilit binubuksan ang drawers. Imagine, can a child who is barely 2 years old do that? I realized na advanced talaga ang pag-iisip ng anak ko...Naawa ako sa kanya, I followed her immediately, then kinausap ko sya. I explained to her that it's not proper to eat too much. Saka lang sya tumigil sa pag-iyak.
Tama ba yung ginawa ko? O baka 'bad' mama ako? I should have not uttered those words, right? Dapat hindi ko sinabing "maglalayas ka na ba?"
Are there alternatives ways to discipline our children? Can we discipline them without shouting or spanking? I think we can...But there are some obtacles. Our challenge is that, it is lot easier to talk about what we are not going to do than figuring out what we're going to do instead. When we are stressed, we tend to go back to the old pattern, that is, spanking and shouting.
My husband and I want to change the style of disciplining our daughter. Since shouting and spanking has a negative effect on her. The more we shout or spank, to more na nagiging makulit sya... That's why we are currently looking for alternative ways by talking to our parents, and some research from books and internet.
We will really appreciate your comments too...
yung sigaw e iwasan na nga. kung papaluin e dapat bago paluin, iexplain kung bakit sya pinapalo, or something to that.. pero malay ko rin, di pa ako nanay e, hehehe :)
ReplyDeletethank you so much sa comment, mareng jawee. kailangan makuha namin ni rommel ang tamang paraan ng pag didisiplina. lalo na ngayon na paalis na naman ulit sya, baka mahirapan ako pag mag-isa na lang ako.
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ReplyDeletemy kid is still 6 months old. so i'll share my mom's advice to us. according to my mom, never say words that you can't do, won't do or you don't mean. you'll lose your credibility. sasabihin nyan, "ahh sabi lang yan ni mommy pero di naman totohanin, so pwede ko gawin."
also before your kid does something you don't want her to do, you warn her like "if you do this, i will spank you". She has been warned na, if she does it you explain why she was punished. the spanking doesn't have to be painful, light lang. then you tell her it's the bad that you're spanking away, not her. hehe
Try time-out sis. Ako minsan pag nasasagad lalo pagod at puyat, ayoko na din magsalita kasi nga ayaw ko din matrauma sya pag minsan nasisigawan sya.
ReplyDeleteDeadmahin mo for like 2 mins as in walang usap. Pero ako kadalasan, face the wall saka sit in the corner ginagawa ko. Sabi nga pag 2 yrs old 2 mins daw tama ng discipline yun. So mga 2 mins mo sya deadma or sit in d corner.
Then saka mo paliwanag why you had to do that....
thanks mitchie...
ReplyDeletenaku!, i also try that, yung sit in the corner for 2 mins. kaso mukhang kawawa naman hehehe... iyak ng iyak.
pero kailangan maging firm di ba? so, stick muna ako sa "sit in the corner" method. mukhang mas magiging effective eh.
ang maganda lang kay Thea, after mapagalitan lalapitan kami, tapos, kiss or hug. minsan may "love you" pa na kasama. hehehe