Last night, we had fried fish for dinner. That was the easiest way to prepare since I arrived home a little bit late. My husband bought mami (noodle soup) at the canteen near our place. Fish and noodles are Althea's favorites kaya ganado na naman syang kumain. I gave her noodles and fish, di ko na sya binigyan ng rice. When we are about to finish eating, my sister-in-law who just arrived from work asked if we have veggies. Sabi ng husband ko, wala Ate, sa'yo na 'tong mami...Nakupo.... yun na ang start ng tantrums ni Thea. Gusto pa raw nya kumain ng noodles.
No matter how I explained that she can't have it anymore, she continued crying. Isinuot nya ang tsinelas nya, at nagpumilit na lumabas... Di ko na napigilang di magtaas ng boses... "Saan ka pupunta? Maglalayas ka na ba? O sige akyat ka sa taas at kunin mo na rin ang damit mo." Na-shocked ako dahil bigla s'yang umakyat (ang bilis nyang naka-akyat sa hagdan). Diretso sa cabinet nya at pilit binubuksan ang drawers. Imagine, can a child who is barely 2 years old do that? I realized na advanced talaga ang pag-iisip ng anak ko...Naawa ako sa kanya, I followed her immediately, then kinausap ko sya. I explained to her that it's not proper to eat too much. Saka lang sya tumigil sa pag-iyak.
Tama ba yung ginawa ko? O baka 'bad' mama ako? I should have not uttered those words, right? Dapat hindi ko sinabing "maglalayas ka na ba?"
Are there alternatives ways to discipline our children? Can we discipline them without shouting or spanking? I think we can...But there are some obtacles. Our challenge is that, it is lot easier to talk about what we are not going to do than figuring out what we're going to do instead. When we are stressed, we tend to go back to the old pattern, that is, spanking and shouting.
My husband and I want to change the style of disciplining our daughter. Since shouting and spanking has a negative effect on her. The more we shout or spank, to more na nagiging makulit sya... That's why we are currently looking for alternative ways by talking to our parents, and some research from books and internet.
We will really appreciate your comments too...